Should you be selfish or selfless?

After listening to the discussions between Mr Gopinath and Mr Sivasankaran Sir(Aircel Founder), the meaning of selfish got changed. When I look out for material things which I need for myself the accumulation of things happens. 

whatever we do, if we consider everything as an action, either taking from others or giving to others, if my action is towards giving to others and if I'm selfish in doing it, then it turns out to be both selfish and selfless. In this context, I'm selfish and at the same time selfless - The journey or attitude towards this mindset changes the way we look things outside world or inside world.

How can I be both selfish and selfless? then do you expect me to give whatever I have?
What is giving? Giving is always only money and material things? or Giving is always only about time?
Giving is knowledge? what exactly to be given?

If I feel the other person is poor and If I feel he doesn't have more money than me and If I give my money to him, he may feel happy and I may feel happy as well

However did he ask for money in first place? if yes, then what I did was what he expected.
if he didn't intend for money, then just to enhance my feeling, I shared whatever I felt good.

Now considering the above situation, we can have judgmental opinion of doing right and wrong things.
what is right? Give only when someone asks you - because we intend to do the right activity, we wait for someone to ask.
what is wrong? I myself don't have why should I give. Giving is wrong. I'm doing the right activity now.

Blog continues - on exploring the thought of giving...... Selfish to selfless 

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